If the idea of walking into a large mixer makes your stomach drop, it’s time to rethink what networking looks like for you. There’s no single right way to connect with others. If you prefer quiet, one-on-one conversations, your networking superpower might be the informational interview—a casual, twenty-minute coffee chat with a colleague. If you communicate best through writing, building a thoughtful presence on professional digital platforms might be your ideal starting point.
You can hold yourself back if you force yourself into a networking style that doesn’t feel real. If you act like a loud, outgoing salesperson just because you think that’s what networking is, people will notice it’s not genuine. This often leads to awkward moments, feeling tired, and connections that don’t last because they weren’t built on honesty.
To change this, think about your natural social strengths. If you’re a good listener, use that skill to ask thoughtful questions and let others share their stories. If you like structure, try joining small industry workshops or volunteer groups at work instead of big social events. When you use your strengths, networking feels less tiring and more like a real conversation.
The best network is one you can keep up with over time without feeling overwhelmed. A handful of real, strong connections is better than having hundreds of shallow ones. When you choose a style that fits you, networking becomes a habit that feels natural, boosts your confidence, and keeps you involved throughout your career.
Put these approaches into practice.
Let’s look at practical ways to create a lasting professional network that matches how you naturally like to connect with others.
